In 1976, my blood father decided to return to my life. He did this in part because my moms new husband took the official steps to adopt me. It was this notice of adoption that jolted my father into this communication.
This is the letter I received from my blood father. I found it in a file in 2008. It was the first time I read it, 26 years after his death.
People don't realize the pain they cause to others by their actions, especially to children. It is so terribly sad. Some people just don't have the life energy to reach out past their own stresses in life to love and care for another.. then they just retract like a turtle going back into its shell and closing the door. (they didn't mean rejection or no love. Just couldn't overcome themselves). It is kinder to just forgive at this point, on everybody's behalf.
Are you going to write more about your dad? I would like to read about what happened when you finally did come face to face with him.
ReplyDeleteYes, not sure when though.
ReplyDeletegreat post!
ReplyDeleteIs he buried at Mount Calvary by AHS?
ReplyDeleteHe is buried there, how did you know?
ReplyDeletePeople don't realize the pain they cause to others by their actions, especially to children. It is so terribly sad. Some people just don't have the life energy to reach out past their own stresses in life to love and care for another.. then they just retract like a turtle going back into its shell and closing the door. (they didn't mean rejection or no love. Just couldn't overcome themselves). It is kinder to just forgive at this point, on everybody's behalf.
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